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Thursday, 9 August 2012

Sex education for children


Sex Education For Children

Magar bacho'n ko sex education marhala waar milni chahiyien maslan 10, 11 saal kay larkon ko ilm ho kay sotey mein inn kay penis sey ek khaas qism ka safaed liquid kharij ho sakta hai jo kay bilkul fitri cheez hai na kay koi beemari. Iss tarah bachiyon ko to 10 saal ki umer mein yeh ilm ho jana chahiyie kay unn ki faraj sey khoon nikal sakta hai jo kay baloghat ki alamat hai na kay koi khatarnaak beemari.
Humarey haan yeh ajeeb baat hai kay log bachon ko jinsi taalem (sex education) fraham karney ko bura samajhtey hain, hala'n kay yeh talim deegar ashkaal mein mufassal tor per school, college aur university ki satah per biology, physiology, anatomy, gynecology aur psychology kay mazameen kay students ko dii jati hai. Allah ta'ala ney Quran majeed aur Hazrat Muhammad ney ahadees mein tafseel kay sath yeh zaroori aur fitri ma'aloomaat fraham kii hain, yani yeh bari ajeeb baat hai kay jis baat ko Quran aur sahib e Quran bataein hum usey batatey huey sharmaein. Kya bachon ko paki, na paki kay baarey mein ma'aloomat nahin milni chahiyien, kya naujawano'n ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay ehtelam (nocturnal ejaculation) aur mubashrat (intercourse) kay ba'ad ghusl farz ho jata hai. Aisi soorat e haal mein ghusl kis tarah karna hai, kya inn ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay qatro'n kay ikhraj sey ghusl farz nahin hota. Bohut sey naujawan namaz parhney mein iss liye bhi kotahi kartey hain kay woh inn qatro'n ko paleed samajhtey hain hala'n kay yeh qatrey napaak nahin hotey. Iss soorat mein sirf penis ko dho lena aur wuzu kar lena kafi hai. Kya naujawano'n ko yeh nahin ma'aloom hona chahiyie kay mani (seminal fluid) koi qeemti cheez nahin aur na hi peeshab pakahnaey ki tarah napaak hai. Khush mani ko ragerr kar saaf kya ja sakta hai. Isi tarah kya naujawano'n ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay
Hum jinsiyat (homosexuality) na sirf gunah hai bul kay khatarnak jinsi bemariyon khusoosan AIDS waghaera kay phaelney ka mu'asser zarya hai. Kya naujawan nasal ko iss baat ka ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay mian biwi kay jinsi ta'alluqaat per sharmindagi ki koi baat nahin, yeh koi buri cheez nahin. Allah kay nabi ney biwi kay sath mubaashirat ko naeki aur sadqa qaraar diya hai. Iss tarah kyalarkiyon ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kayhaez koi bemari nahin bul kay ek fitri cheez hai jo inn ki baloghat aur takmeel ki alamat hai. Kya bachiyon ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay leucorrhea koi beemari nahin.
Agar aap bachon ko Quran o sunnah aur jadeed ilm ki roshni mein khud jinsi ta'aleemnahin deingey to bachey yeh ma'aloomat apney doston, deewaro'n per ishtehaaraat aur ghaer meyari kutub sey hasil kareingey jo taqreeban 100% ghalat aur gumrahkun hoti hain. Ek research kay mutabiq bachey taqreeban 50% jinsi ma'aloomat doston aur 21% kutub sey hasil kartey hain(Hyde). Budqismati sey bacho'n kay doston ki ma'aloomaat durust hoti hain na hi humarey haan iss mozou per meyaru kutub mojood hain.
Iss hawaley sey ek sawal yeh paeda hota hai kay bachon ko jinsi taleem kab dii jaey. Iss silsiley mein Quran majeed sey rehnumaee milti hai. Who bachey jinki madri zuban urdu hai woh ju'nhi Quran Majeed parhna shuru kartey hain unn ki sex education bhi shuru ho jati hai. Amooman bachey 9 ya 10 saal ki umer mein Quran majeed parhna shuru kar detey hain. Mashhoor huftroza Time kay ek survey kay mutabiq awam ki aksaryat ka khayal hai kay jinsi ta'aleem 12 saal ki umer sey shuru ho jab kay walaedaen ka khayal hai kay bachon ki jinsi ta'aleem baloghat sey pehley shuru nahin honi chahiyie magar haqeeqat yeh hai kay bacha apni jinsi ta'aleem apney ibtedaee saalon mein shuru kar deta hai Aur yeh bhi haqeeqat hai kay bachey ko agar sahi zaryey sey malumat na milein to phir woh galat aur tabah kun zaryey sey gumraah kun malumat hasil karta hai aur inhi malumat ka asar hai kay naujawan tabqa jinsi aur akhlaqi tor per tabahi kay kinarey per khara hai.
Humarey khayal mein jinsi talim bachon ko ghar hi sey miley. 9/10 saal ki umer mein maan beti ko aur baap betey ko yeh ta'aleem deni shuru kardey. Research sey sabit ho chuka hai kay bachey walaedaen sey jinsi malumat hasil karney ko tarjeeh detey hain. Iss liye yeh baat bey hudd zaroori hai kay walaedaen khud Quran o sunnah aur jadeed tehqeeq ki roshni mein taza aur sahi ma'aloomat hasil karein ta'kay woh agli nasal ko yeh ma'aloomat muntaqil kar kay ek pursukoon aur behter mua'ashirey ki bunyaad rakhein. Walaedaen kay elawa teachers ko bhi yeh malumat hasil karni chahiyien ta'kay woh hasb e zaroorat bachon ki rehnumaee kar sakein.
Yeh talim bachon ko ek dum nahin bul kay marhala waar milni chahiyie ta hum shaadi sey pehley jinsi talim ki takmeel ho jani chahiyie. Iss talim mein bachon ko apney jismani a'aza (anatomy) aur unn kay functions (physiology) kay hawaley sey malumat fraham ki jaein. Iss kay elawa mubashrat, halal, haram, hamal, paeda'esh aur jinsi beemariyon waghaera kay hawaley sey malumat dii jaein. Khusoosan jins kay hawaley sey jitney mughalitey hain unn ki haqeeqat sey bachon ko aagah kya jaey.
Iss kay elawa bachon ko yeh talim o tarbiyat bhi dii jaey kay unhoney apney aap ko jinsi tashaddud (sexual abuse) sey kis tarah bachana hai.

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